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Resolved Question: Should I buy a mobile home or get a college degree?
Should I buy a mobile home or finish my college degree? I'm permanently disabled, I have enough money saved to either receive a 3bed 2 bath mobile home, the lot fee is only $ 190 a month (and pay for college as a I go) .......OR finish my college degree 26 hours to go and continue to rent for $650 a month(and not have anything left to buy a home). What do you think I should do??
15 May 2010, 12:04 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I was terminated from the section 8 ,with 6 kids 5,of which are still minors.only because my oldest boy got in?
some trouble.Unknowing to me.and after,I did find out he had gotten locked up,and released,in 4 months.My son came by my home hungry,and dirty looking.and I told the people of the Housing Authority this.Being as Honest as I can,I only let my son take a hot bath,eat,and lay down to receive him some much needed relax for about 51/2 hours.I was wanting to know is there any way I can receive back on the Section 8 Program,so that me and my minor kids can have somewhere to live,My husband whom isn't working,and is 64 years old,and retired.I am and have always been an Disabled Homemaker...If not that program again,do you have any other suggestions? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING,.
1 Aug 2010, 1:06 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Help organize my small apt.?
My family and I live in decent size 2 bed,1 bath apt. I have triplets in one room and my husband and I in the other. Our kitchen and living room is decent size. The problem I am having is getting organized. I have a lot of trouble with shoes.I also work out of my home,home school, and the triplets are girls that are each there possess person. Oh and we have 3 dogs too. Please don't say receive a bigger home ( we can't afford that, i am disabled and my husband works.One of our daughters i s disabled as well.) I think if i could receive some good ideas. It would be great. Thanks so much! Please be nice. Thank you
15 Feb 2010, 12:20 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Girlfriend is seriously ill and cant move-need help/advice.?
I have been with my gf for 7 years, when we met it was in a club and we were younger, she is beautiful smart intelligent person, the nice that when she walks into the room guys turn to glare at her, not just her looks i fell in adore with everything about her, am 29years old and she 28.My girlfriend is sick and cant move, walk or do anything, the health service are crap. she already went with the health service and they balls it up. her doctor turned out to be airport terrorist. i work as a fitness instructor and do plumbing aswell as extra work. she has been like this for the past year and a half, it is a struggle getting her into the bath and she sits in the home day and night, she has a wheelchair as she cannot walk. she isnt disabled, she had several operations by the health service and they messed her up. she used to be out every the time with friends talking to everyone, now she sits in the home doing nothing apart from stare at four walls and take pain killers and her face is completely different, i came in the other night and she looked like someone who was dead, pale lightish blue and blank expression, she used to have nice brown tanned face. i have contacted insurance companies to look if we are entitled to money cause the health service messed up her knee. I asked her to marry me yesterday and she said no and that she didn't want to be with me and that am better off without her. she was cryin and it turned out she thought she was making my life hell, she ended up telin me that she would adore to marry me but she told me i deserved better than a cripple. i work out and work in gym so i have good body and i guess am good lookin and she says i deserve someone else. i told her she was talkin pish and that i wanted to be with her, but its like shes juts depressed and i dont know what to do. is me telling her i adore her enough? she doesnt want to talk to counsellor or anythin, and i think they are useless myself. i want to be with her no matter what. we dont have a sex life any more, and we dont go out. I go out to work and barely receive enough to receive by. I have recently been doing work for a lady who is in her 50s and started with plumbing, she lives in big home and is loaded. last week she payed me £800 cash to spend time with her, go to theatre and dine together, i have not told my girlfriend or wife to be about this. 2 days ago she contacted me and i went round and she had pink thong and bow tie, she gave me a grand for 2 hours of sitting with her hand on my leg and me in a pink thong and talkin, she also used my back as a footrest. She wants me to arrive round tomorrow and do some more stuff, i told her i have gf and she says no sex, just fun. I keep telling my gf that i have plumbing work. the money i make is goin towards private treatment at a private hospital and i'm 10 grand short. i dont no what else to. I have thought about everythin. i even had thoughts about drug dealin, but i dont want to do that to people, so i swallowed my pride and been going to this womans home and doin stupid shit for her. normally i would talk to my gf/wife to be, but i dont want to worry her when she is in this state and i want her to receive well. what do i do? how to i make things better. its like we both have no life. and am not leavin her so dont put answers that i should leave because thats not happening. positive feedback only.
15 Jun 2010, 6:22 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: i dont qualify fo medicaid?
i was recently clip off SSI cause my dad just passsed away and because i am disabled since childbirth i am eligible for his SSID(2 different incomes) unfortunitly i will be clip off medicaid as well my disability or my situation hasnt changed(just my income and only by slightly ) im not able to work so im not able to receive any medical covarage im not eligible for medicare either(im too young and i dont have enough credits) so right now i have no coverage i take meds on a daily bases and i go to the doc every 2 months i also have medical equiptment such as wheelchair crutches bath seat every paid threw medicaid is there a way i can recieve a medicaid like coverage that will pay for everything medicaid paid for or is there another insurance that is affordable for someone on a fixed income that willl pay for every my medical needs.....if not are there any programs that can advocate for me and my situation...(im new to every this) I live in New Jersey(Essex County) and below the state policies im not considered low income
23 May 2010, 9:11 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: i am caregiving my boyfriends selfish grandmother and grandfather who make me work 24/7?
both 92 her 250+ no legs and a glutton as well trouble maker,starter,greedy andself centered no regaurd for my feelings every that matters is them i never receive a break i do it every feeding, dressing, diapering,allhousehold chores, errands, bills, transportation i live with them originaly with my boyfriend to help the siblings take care of them so they would not have to go into a nursing home now I am left full time 24/7 7 days a week with no regaurd for my family, kids ect.. i am told when to go to be when to receive up, they are rude and will have there daughter engage in shit stirring at my expense accusing me recently of breing a con artist and thief and today said she does not like me that i talk to much and to close up she will not pay me now after she agreed to and I never have any money and then they give me a 300 dollar check that is no good tell me to leave i have to arrive back and I receive yelled at becouse I dont care abourt her and was not there to help her that day when she asked her daughter who is syco and dileberatly goes through my room and steal my belongings and they condone it i am at my wits and feel like leaving they have hurt my feelings to many times not to mention cosumed my life do I leave and find someone they have to pay becouse they pay someione 35.oo aday to give her a bath and feed her brkfst but me i can do it for rent I work from sunup to sumdown 12-14 hours a day becouse they are so demanding do I have to the right to ask for my pay after 8 months and only reciving 700 and 1/2 of that I had to share with her grandson.. Please help it;s not fair they pay there to arrive over so i can go shopping for them and she adds to my work not help and give 100 here and there once a month but i always end up doing errands and using it for gas and or something for them as they manipulate me everychance I receive the doctors of them told that I am the best caregiver they have ever seen and they should appriciate me and in front of the doctor they say oh of course but at home they just use me , I have no wher to go and my boyfriend their grandson is disabled as well I am 47 he is 40 and trying to learn new skills and did not know them very well untill now and cannot believe how hurtfull they are to me and him, what can we do to receive them to pay us what they said and have other help for them. This is killing our relationship and me not to mention I am on an island with a broken car that is fixable and they have the money she just does not want to pay me? i want to look my kids and family but i am stuck and i have my possess medical problems I have not dealt with becouse I have no time they actually do not care if my back is out and im hunched over I still have to do it every please help I am smart and tallented and I know there is something better for me I feel so used and I am getting depressed thinking there is no way out of this class thrown on my lap becouse I am nice and giving ..I want to work so when they go I have secuirtiy but they even foil that and I know its my fault I just do not know what to do.? please help?
3 Jun 2010, 5:07 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Am I classed as disabled? can my husband be aloud as my career?
I have a severely damaged joint facet (L4 & L5) detected by MRI scan, Im not sure what has caused it it came on suddenly two years ago Some days I find it agonising to walk, simple things like putting socks & trousers on are a task sometimes I have to ask my husband to help me. I have hydrotherapy physio twice a week some days it eases it but other days it makes the pain a lot worse. I can't have baths as I find it very painful to receive in out & out of it so I shower instead I can walk about 400 yards before I start getting pains, i have to take regular breaks We have a 2 year old and I feel awful when i cant pick him up I also can't steer as my legs go numb and I experience sharp shooting pains down my legs I wish it would just go away so I can live a normal life, it really gets me down I hate to ask but would you say I was classed as disabled? I just feel there must be more help out there for me and my husband he does enough work as it is I struggle day to day and even the most simple things can seem like a task if it wasn't for my husband helping me I wouldn't know what i would have done without him x
4 Jul 2010, 6:05 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: What is the proper way to clean a penis?
I am currently babysitting my younger brother for the whole week because my parents are off on their anniversary. He is disabled so he has others give him showers. What is the proper way to clean his private area? I gave his first bath today and noticed he was uncircumsized. I did not know how to properly clean it. Do i use wipes, antibacterial soap, or anything else? Sounds like a pretty stupid question, but any help will be appreciated Thanks.
27 Jul 2010, 7:37 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Disable beep on tower fan/stop wobbling?
My mom bought me a "Borg™ Pedestal Tower Fan with Remote Control" from Bed Bath & Beyond recently (link: http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?SKU=16421987). I want to keep the fan but I'm having a couple problems with it. For one, when adjusting the speed of the fan or when turning it on and off, there is a really noisy beeping noise and I would like to disable it if possible. Also, where the fan attaches to the swivel part, it's really wobbly. There's no way to tighten it (I don't look any screws). Where the swivel part meets the base doesn't move. Any ideas? This is already the second fan i've bought in hopes of finding a good one. I'm running out of ideas. Yes I know this is in the wrong section but I can't change it now.
8 Aug 2010, 12:41 am | click here to view more
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Voting Question: Should I buy a mobile home or finish my college degree?
Should I buy a mobile home or finish my college degree? I'm permanently disabled, I have enough money saved to either receive a 3bed 2 bath mobile home, the lot fee is only $ 190 a month (and pay for college as a I go) .......OR finish my college degree 26 hours to go and continue to rent for $650 a month(and not have anything left to buy a home). What do you think I should do??
15 May 2010, 12:02 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Charity or Loan..Please help?
In order to stay in my home...I need to fix city code violations. The cost of that is 3,000.00 I possess my home free and clear, but with bad credit and being disabled plus the fact with the violations no bank will even consider holding it as collateral..Its a 4 bedroom 1 bath with attached garage and big lot. Is there some nice soul who would loan me this amount and i would allow a lien on my property till its paid in 15 or so months..i only receive 800.00 from soc sec. or if anyone feels moved to help me...answer and sick send a po box ...even if its one dollar...i just cant be homeless thank you
25 May 2010, 10:36 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Does he really love me or is he using me?
me and my man have been together for almost a year now, and i have 3 kids and he has just 1 that happens to be disabled. he just got his child a year ago and is still learning how to cope with his disability. hes a good dad and goes out of his way to make sure his child has the best care when needed. i am also doing everything in my power to help him when he needs it, i work 12 hrs a day 6 days a week and only receive to look my kids and him for just a few hours a day when i receive home, and in those few hours i have to cook, clean, bath his child cause he doesnt have the patience to do it so i do it, and after every that, every i want is to spend some time with my man, but hes always too busy online researching or something, i try to tell him that we need some time to ourselves but he gets mad and tells me that there are more important things to worry about then us. we have not had sex in over 2 months, his child sleeps in the same room as us but on another bed, cause my man is paranoid that something will happen to his child during the night and wants to be alert in case. when i try to cuddle up to him and try to initiate something, every he does is kiss me goodnight and turns around and goes to snooze. i try to talk to him about it and he says that sex is the last thing on his mind, and that is not important. so i asked him if there was something wrong with me or if hes not attracted to me and he says there isnt anything wrong and he is very attracted to me and he does want me but that hes depressed and stressed over losing his job and having to change his life due to having the respoinsibility of his disabled child. i cant talk to my friends or family about it because we live in a tiny town and things are spread quick, and if it was to receive back to my man he would be very mad at me, at times i feel like he only stays with me cause of every the things i do for him and his child, he tells me he loves me everyday, sometimes more then once, and i do believe him, but im worried that i might be wrong, can someone please give me some advise? what do u think is going on?
22 Nov 2009, 12:23 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Is there a ghost in my housee ?
My brother is 12 hes disabled with autism, when ever im in his room i feel like im being watched, i feel like theres somthing in there with me i feel threatend and scared so i run out the room. And when i was about 12 every morning i walked past my bathroom i used to look an image on a boy sitting in my bath but when i used to look back he wasnt there anymore. I told my mom about thiss and she told me she saw a fourtune teller perosn years ago ( dont know the name ) she told her my brother has a spiritual child with him thats connected to my mom ( My mom lost her baby before she gave birth to me ) Can someone please tell me whats going on , is there really a ghost in my home ? thankss. xxxxxx
23 Apr 2010, 2:30 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: what is the the best way for me to set limits on what I am willing to do...?
my friends have had 2 major illnesses lately...first it has been cancer of the throat, going on 4 months of treatment...and I have been trying my best, despite my financial limitations , to help them out. Now his sister had a major stroke last week....and already many requests have been made of me to help out there also. am feeling a little maxed out...each time I help it costs me time and money. I would adore to keep pitching in when I can but now this latest crisis is making me feel burnt-out. Could use some suggestions on how I can gracefully say...No...to some of these requests. I have physical limitations and now I think they are going to want me to help bath, transfer, etc my pal because she is paralyzed on one side and they will have no home health aide or physical therapist. I am a retired (disabled) RN...I cannot start to do these things for a 180 lb lady now. Should I plead my back problems? I feel so guilty, but I know I would be in pain if I help them. usually I help by having the kids overnight and afternoons and feed them and help with homework. When it rains, it pours...
20 Jan 2010, 4:23 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Do I have a period disorder?
My periods are VERY irregular, but I do have one period per month. (I started at 11, I am now 15) Per month I have: 1 week of cramps with no bleeding, then 1 week of no cramps, then 1 week of cramps WITH bleeding. When I bleed, my cramps are agonising. I have lower abdominal and lower back pain, which is disabling and quite frankly depressing. I tend to urinate and pass stools far more regularly than when I'm not on my period. I've been on NSAIDs like Aspirin, Naproxen, Dicolfenac, and none of them work at every. I've been on Birth Control pills and they did nothing either. I was on the full BC pill and the mini pill, neither helped at every. The only painkiller that works on me is codeine. Things like hot water bottles and hot baths obviously don't work, and I can't exercise because I can't physically move or receive out of bed because of the pain. Do I have endometriosis or something like that? [if any more info is needed then comment and I'll add it]
31 Mar 2010, 4:48 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Why do people ask the same questions over and over and over?
Some freaks on here have been asking the same question for years. This one is really weird. He is a disabled person who has been asking if he should go swimming naked with his sister in a pool or take baths with her naked. He has been asking this for 3 years: http://answers.yahoo.com/my/qa/index;_ylt=AvBxAV99yBy9FEc_A9_8Q7Dty6IX;_ylv=3?link=question&more=y&show=AA10257285&cp=2&tp=3&tnu=51 Here's another werid one. He makes different names and asks the same question, with the same words, over and over again, always asking if the name "Lauther" is German or English. http://answers.yahoo.com/search/search_result;_ylt=AkQHCcVkrGpRcuPlvdpvY6kjzKIX;_ylv=3?p=name+lauther+english&cp=2&tp=8&tnu=74 Another weird one: "have you ever crushed an apple by stepping on it?" http://answers.yahoo.com/search/search_result;_ylt=ApN9gvp6.XFDBKCFT3zQHHAjzKIX;_ylv=3?p=have+ever+crush+apple+stepping Why do people do this? It's creepy.
14 Dec 2009, 2:33 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Do you think my husband will be approved once again for his SSI Disability?
My 40-year-old husband has refractory epilepsy (4 to 8 grand mal seizures a month - no med has helped him completely thus far - used to have 30 to 40 grand mal seizures monthly before brain surgery at age 16) and has been on SSI Disability for the past seven years. He recently received 20 pages worth of forms which he had to fill out, then an 8-page function report, and then a Disability Determination Examiner will determine whether he still qualifies as disabled. What are the chances that his disability will be approved once again? Is this standard procedure to have to be re-examined every so often? Back seven years ago, he was approved within two months of applying. (He does not steer at every and does most activities such as taking a bath or watering the plants only when I am very close by him)
16 Jun 2010, 9:52 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: What's so special about dog "clicker training"?
I'm every for positive reinforcement, I'm also for correction - but I'm not really talking about that, I mean the clicker itself. What's so special about the click sound that the dog is supposed to understand? I've read a number of "clicker training" and they give these reasons why the clicker's better, but then they try to sell you the clicker...If you were disabled or something, mute or deaf I can understand, but if you're not these, why can't you just say good dog, or a pat, or a treat? one of the reasons they said was that it's quicker, that just seems lazy to me. Another reason is dogs don't understand English. Well, duh! but apparently they can associate a lot of sounds and gestures to understand well enough to sit, heel and stay, and my dog like it when I talk to him. When we do something he's uncomfortable with, like trimming nails or bath-time, he responds a lot better when I'm telling him that it'll be OK, than not. Or if dogs are every about body language, why not just invent some sort of "reward" gesture, or a short word that's unusual for your dog to pick out of normal conversation gibberish. (However, sometimes my dog will pick out the word "sit" in normal conversation and do it) So what's the real point of the clicker itself? Or is it just a way to make money on anybody looking for the "new" thing?
14 Jul 2010, 4:34 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: why did my health visitor have to make up such nasty lies?
since my oldest daughter turned 18 months old i have battled to receive her seen by someone as i belive she has a behavouir problem but have constantly ended up being ignored she has hurt me and she had hurt other kids but still they told me she was "normal" it was every blown out of preportion and i shouldnt worry until two weeks ago i had managed to receive along with how she was behaving even though at the point of constant tears of what she would do next heres a few of the things she had been doing lashing out inc hitting her disabled grandmother and myself destroying everything she came into contact with including furniture pooping on the floor anti socail with other kids to the point her 6 year old cousin told his mum he didnt want to play with her anymore as she was to nasty constanly kicking off when she wasnt getting what she wanted staying up til 4- 5 am and then getting up again at 7-8am was difficult towards myself when pregnant and pushed me down the stairs and stabbed me with a fork in the leg two weeks ago 8.1.10 she attacked my little girl who 17 months so visiously she left facial bruiseing which i reported to her health visitor who still seemed to ignore what i was saying and actually stated that she had no type of behaviuor problem and it was me who was being negitive! i was too igonre it and be positive i had to receive family to look after my daughter for a few days as my little one was so scared at what she had done and could cease crying and shaking when ever my 3 year old went close her and yet suddendly today my health visitor turned up and accused me of child abuse also my partner even though o had informed her 2 weeks ago about what had happened and it was now she had to hear yet she still hasnt and then she implyed my partner is beating me too????????? he has never touched me like that and he has never smacked my little girls she even told me that she had never read my 3 year old medical notes as she has been our hv for anly 4 months so she hasnt even seen that this behaviuor has been going on long before i got with my partner ( who has been the best step dad anyone could ask for my kids even call him dad which they started doing by themselves my daughters would rather sit and have a cuddle with him than me to be honest im mum i do bath and dinner he does the fun stuff so ive been told) i really dont know what to do we are good parents and we adore our kids but this lady has gone too far and told blatant lies about us my baby still has a sl;ight bruise from the innncident on 8.1.10 just one on her whole intire body yet suddenly i am supposed to have done and she is abused im sorry but every parents out there how many bruises does your kids have from everyday life?? i feel i have been labled and it pains me as i adore my kiddys i just dont know what to do well thanks to the last answer she had a fork because she was eating and my daugthter has never seen violence at home or else where! and as for disapline other than time out there is nothing else i can do she is only 3! thankfully we had socail services out this morning and they have told us they are not concerned and will not be involved and we are to seek legal advice over the slander and lies told by the health vistior! im a good mum and having a child aged 3 and one aged 17 months thats not neglectful parenting thats just how our family unit is and i would never hurt or change my girls for anything in the world! i just feel sorry for other people that have had to go thru this too
20 Jan 2010, 7:01 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Am I entitled to a Bath in my property (UK)?
Hey, I've just moved into a home and it has a walk in shower room (was for a disabled person) and it doesn't have a bath, does anybody know if I am entitled to one? It's a housing association/council property. Can anyone please help? :)
8 Nov 2009, 6:04 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: What can I do to relieve stress?
My mom is really pissing me off these days...calling me ungrateful and threatening to just take my little sister and leave me and my brother, who really is an ungrateful little prick, to fend for ourselves or to stay with our dad, whom she JUST kicked out for his abusive nature. Even when I take care of every my possess school affairs (I'm home schooled), every of my medical issues, and not to mention babysitting my severely disabled sister every while doing trivial things like helping her tug pranks on her co-workers and trying to keep our spirits up for our recent tiny spring celebration, every of a sudden I'm some lazy, greedy brat because I recently got very sick and feel fatigued every the time...so I can't keep up on my home chores or with my sister like I used to. It's not like I like having my room dirty or sleeping nonstop every day...I hate it...It makes me feel disgusting...But I can't help it. Anyway, sorry to rant. Just needed to receive that off my chest somehow. I usually "receive off" to relieve stress (yeah, yeah...so sue me...) but since I recently got a cyst in my ovary, I receive really bad, crippling cramps whenever I orgasm or physically excited (like having to run around or do exercise). I tried listening to music, watching a movie, reading a book, writing, and drawing...but my mind just drifts back to how much my mom has been pissing me off. I don't want to "talk about it" to her because she'll just give me some lame *** excuse as to why she's allowed to call me self-centered and lazy. Yes, she works full time. I receive it. That's why I try not to bother her with my teachers or doctors or my sister. That's why I cook whenever she doesn't feel like it and take care of things whenever she's too busy or feeling sick--whether I'm sick or not. To be quite frank, I want advice on how to bottle every this up and pretend like it never even happened. Perhaps this is an irresponsible, unhealthy way to deal with things, but y'know, I've been the responsible do-gooder since age three. I'm so sick of responsibility right now. Just help me find a quick fix, if possible. Please. By the way, I'm sixteen and not into drinking...And baths don't really work because my legs are too long and our bath tub is too tiny... Thanks.
5 Apr 2010, 4:04 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Why do people with a registered disability have to pay VAT?
Why do people with a registered disability have to pay VAT On essentials like fuel gas electric, petrol. Altering your home to make it easer to live there, The only way for me as a disabled person to keep in touch with outside world is with my computer these are essential thing we as disabled people have to have. Why do people with a registered disability have to pay VAT. LAST YEAR I had may bathroom altered so it was easer for us to keep clean on the new suite I paid no vat, but on the work and other materials I had to pay the vat, now I no its not allot of money but every penny counts to fit the bath I had to borrow the funds but if I lived in a council home the government pay for it every. I need a new roof on my home as it may start to leak. They say there's grants out there but I can never find them. If some one out there know any answers to these question please tell me yours LT Yorkshire
24 Feb 2010, 2:48 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Where do I find out about grants for the handicap?
I've been disabled since about second grade. It's not that it's so bad I have to be in a wheel seat, but I have lots of problems w/ my joints and muscles. I have RA and Fibromyalgia. Since I was little, I've had to take daily baths. I was told that there is a grant for the handicap, that allows them to recieve a hot tub. This would be wonderful for me, but I can't find where I need to go. Anything might help! THanks!!
10 Jun 2010, 6:31 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Charging disabled sister who lives with me rent?
I have a disabled sister, whom I am guardian for, and take her to every of her apts; do every the laundry, cooking, cleaning; and if she acts up or gets sick at her "rehab" work, I have to take time off work without pay, I charge her 700.00 rent plus 300.00 food money; and that leaves her about 300.00 each month to buy what she wants. Am I charging her too much for rent and food? She receives about 1250.00 in Survivors Benefits from our deceased Mothers Social Security plus she receives 41.00 in Food Stamps and an additional 114.00 in help to pay utilities. She was in an Adult Foster Care Home and hated it. this is giving her more independence and choices in life. I do not tell her what to buy with her funds. This is a 3 bedroom; full basement home with 2 full baths, she has one full bedroom plus two additonal full closets and a full bathroom every to herself. And can eat whatever she wants from the kitchen. I "misspoke" when I said I charge only 300.00 for food, this includes every of her every day needs (toothpaste, shampoo, deoradant, pads, special food that only she eats-I don't eat any of the food that is purchased just for her-pop, gatorade, frozen pizza for her lunches, trail mix, cereal, milk, lunchmeat, etc.) I do not charge her gasoline mileage, and have driven her over 2200 miles in the last 9 months. Gasoline is included with this also. The 300.00 also covers 1/2 the laundry supplies. I do laundry every other day to keep up with this, she needs 24 hour care, due to uncontrolled seizures. She is happier here, she has more freedom, doesn't have to eat what the Adult Foster Care staff cook she tells me what she wants, and bam, it's on the table for her. It also includes home maintence, some of the seizures she has had has broken cupboard doors, ripped off a shelving unit off the bathroom wall, and we had to reinforce one of her bedroom walls because she fell through it X2. When I am home with her at night, I have a monitor so I can hear her throughout the night. We I can't be home her caregiver is with her and she is paid 9.00/hour plus mileage for taking her shopping or just going for a steer. I also buy her dinner if we go out to eat. I just want to make sure I'm not ripping her off and make her life as glad and healthy for her Ok, let's look at the picture, if she was living on her possess and had to hire someone to be there for her, someone would be paid 10.00 per hour, that's 120.00 a day-she works and would need someone to be with her at least 12 hours a day--and more on the weekends. which in turn totals over 43,000 a year ALSO...someone would be doing her laundry, cleaning, cooking, taking her shopping (they would also be getting paid mileage). I work fulltime and have not taken any time off from caring for her, even though her case worker told me I needed to take a break too. I never tell her what to spend her funds on. As I stated, she gets over 300.00 and per tiny paychecks to buy what she wants, or go places she wants to go..
26 Jul 2010, 7:43 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Girlfriends brat teenagers?
My other half has a teenage son who is a complete brat. And i dont think i can deal with this BS of his anymore! It's just non cease with this kid, he is 14 and acts like he's in charge of everything. He so difficult to live with because he's so disrespectful. He eats every my food before i receive a change to even touch it. This weekend i brought big cake, some chocolate candies for my gf, and abunch of TV dinners. This guy literally ate every of it by tuesday, never says thank you. He will go receive one of my TV dinners, eat it, and leave the container wherever he finishes the food. And just walks away, silverwear still in the container. He comes in from school, i will say hello, most of the time he wont even respond. Last night he told me to close up when we were watching TV! And my girlfriend just sat there and i dont know if she heard it or not. But i was blown away. I have confronted my girlfriend about him, as well as confronted him about it. And she just takes his side and flips it out on me, telling me there is freedom of speech and other nonsense, so there is no point in me getting mad anymore. Every time i try to disipline him her and i battle, and it ends up with the 2 of us not talking for days on end , and i just cant take it anymore. Also, not that this is a big deal, but she brought him a laptop last year, and he uses it to look up gay porn every the time, but says he's not gay. And my girlfriend believes him. He will go in the bathroom with his laptop for 2 hours, and say he's taking a bath before hand, yet comes out with the exact outfit on and clearly can tell he took no bath... She finds nothing wrong with this. He is such a jerk that he wont even help his disabled brother in the home unless we ask him to, a brother whom cant even walk. I was not raised like this and i cant take it anymore. He never cleans' after himself, lets the dog out, he wont even bring me the phone if i receive a call, he has told my family numerous times that he doesnt know where iam when he knows iam in the other room. What should i do here? I cant win and its killing me. PLZ Help, and btw, iam a very easy going guy, very laid back, and super easy to receive along with!
16 Feb 2010, 8:26 pm | click here to view more
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Resolved Question: Why does my dog keep scratching himself?!?!?! PLEASE HELP!?
Ok, so my dog is a Chihuahua/mini pincher. He has been scratching his back A LOT lately! his back is very red, and he's loosing his hair We gave him a bath with the shampoo that kills fleas. He stopped scratching for a while. Now he's back at it again I don't know what it could be!!! We don't take him outside much, because we are disabled. He gets exercise here in the home. We keep our home really clean. I just don't know what it could be. We have another dog [same breed] and she isn't scratching herself. When we look at the male dog's fur, we don't look ANY fleas crawling around. [before and after his bath] I don't really have enough money to take him to the vet. Here's a pic of his back http://i119.photobucket.com/albums/o147/nikinik93/101109222624.jpg Please help me!!! any advice would be great here!!!! Thanks in advance! ~Nikki
11 Oct 2009, 11:42 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: so its been 18 years and my cat has passed away.. she was diabetic, dont know how to deal with it.?
it was 1993 when we got her, right before i started kindergarten. I played with her roughly as a child like most kids do i suppose. she always slept with me growing up and waited by the door or in the window when i came home from school. when i was in high school she got diabetes and lost a ton of weight and mom had to give her insulin shots twice a day. this was in 2004.. we thought we would lose her but she was still active running around the home like nothing happened. maybe a month later she had to go back to the vet and they spayed her bc she was bleeding alot and we thought it was her diabetes but just turned out bc she wasnt spayed most cats in older age will start to do that. she was an indoor cat so thats why we never did receive her spayed. when she came home she felt really good, playful again. then in 2008 arthritis kicked in difficult where she wasnt able to jump on the bed, sofa or anything so we bought her a nice huge bed and she loved it. mom and i would put her on the sofa and bed and she would cuddle and purr.. in the begining of 2009 i got a new kitty and margo didnt like the fact at first she would hiss as the little kitty, he would try to adore on her. he didnt know. after a few weeks margo adapted to mai and licked him like if she would have had kittens her self. it was loving..they would cuddle and mai being a boy he would be wild with margo pestering her sometimes but they would still give each other a bath and adore on each other. as those weeks went by margo started to have seizures but she always snapped out of it. i felt bad and i knew it was coming. mom and i made her feel much conformable laying down towels for her so she would have spots around the home because she began to hide. the last week she been hiding in my room.. so we kept her food in there and water.. well her favorite spot was the kitchen bc she always loved the huge windows we had to watch the birds,raccoon, squirrels, and stuff. she would stay in there.. so when i went to bed.. dad was up, she had came in the kitchen where he was sitting.. lay right there looking at him with her big old green eyes he said. she put her head down and as dad watched she passed just like that. he petted her to look if she was just asleep but didnt wake up and came and got us.. where we sat in the kitchen for 2 hours sobbing. we got her bed and wrapped her and covered her and place her in it. i got her two favorite toys she always carried around lay it next to her. we cried and little mai was confused but i think he knew margo was gone. so he sat with us.. parents went back to snooze and i am still out here sobbing. its difficult bc that cat has fought for years and was very strong. the cat has been with me since i was 4 years old and now i am 21.. so its difficult esp when you are unable to go out bc your disable margo was there with me and kept me company.. i know shes better and doesnt have to suffer anymore. but its kinda lonely not knowing shes going to be here. she would wake me up in the morning to let me know she was hungry and time for her shot. she always came in my room kinda to make sure i was okay. i think she knew i had problems and she tried to help me. but now shes gone i feel like a piece of me is gone.
19 Jan 2010, 5:21 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: were can i find a cheap but good bath lift? Answer a.s.a.p?
Okay i need a bath lift i am 16 years old and in wheelchair Oxygen and ect i am sleepy of my mom giving me bath like a little baby i am disabled but i can receive up but just to switch seats and stuff. so hear are my questions down below #1. What are some good but sorta cheap bath lifts.? #2. Will our insurance cover the bath lift.? #3.How to lift a toilet or toilet lift perhaps? No rude comments ps: i know its wired having your mom giving you a bath at 16 yers old but i have my reasons that is y i want the bath lift didn't know where to put this wish i put in the right spot
15 Apr 2010, 11:24 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: sometimes i get violent thoughts?
1 day my bf was getting annoying and i asked him for the scissors and i felt like stabbing him..... and i have a child who is disabled and i felt like drowning her in the tub when i was giving her a bath. i even dream of it. and ppl think im bipolar. what should i do?
27 Dec 2009, 11:58 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: mothers day presents/ideas? PLEASE help, 10 points? im DESPERATE?
my mom LOVES coffee, candles, reed diffusers, bath stuff, anything i make, etc. lol i decided i was getting her her fave coffee, and making her bath basket. any other ideas??? oh and gardening, we are working on that together, an indoor garden in this coffee table, it had great ventilation, and is every glass, and hollow inside, we used to have fish in there, then turtles, now we want something easier, we decided on a garden! i planted some flowers, but may need more XD that's an idea. any flowers you can think of? i'm just 13, no online shopping for minors :o specially since i dont gotsta credit card >.< i guess every moms like the same things to an extent. she also had an antique lighter/ pipe, ciggarette dispenser collection, doubt i can buy any of that though. and she collects roosters in the kitchen (she grew up with them) not over the top, just her and there. so craft ideas too? i VERY crafty. i adore painting... but others are fine too! i already bought 2 stepping rock kits to make for her REMEMBER NO ONLINE SHOPPING! IVE POSTED THIS QUESTION TWICE BEFORE NOW, AND GOT 2 ANSWERS, BOTH WERE ONLINE SHOPPING!!!!! she hates feet, no pedicures, foot massages etc. she already has a spa gift certificate, mine would be useless, and i have a disabled brother, so she cant snooze in, she has to follow a really strict schedual to receive him ready. i cant, he's older than me, and really strong. lol i would have to show/shave my brother, receive him dressed, etc. as you cans ee, thats not a 13 year olds job (sorry mama) anyway i decided on this set my alarm to 8:30 make her breakfast(my homemade crepes with home made cream cheese filling, bacon, scrambled eggs with cheese)/buy her new fave coffee to make, and card w/ gift certificate to ??? give her b-quick at 9:00, watch TV in her room with her (one of our fave shows from the night before) let her receive larry ready and i snooze downstairs when she comes down 10:00? give her presents. bath basket, flowers (clip AND potted) home made candles, fave coffee, ??? (some sort of crafts, mom plaques, wind chimes, bracelets, anything sweet and sentimental i can find at hallmark XD) let her chillax while i clean the car, then the home. arrive in around 12:00 to make us lunch (tuna melt with lettuce, tomato, and swiaa cheese, one of her faves) eat, then finish cleaning, when i'm done, then chillax with her make dinner (my homemade mac n cheese) and continue to watch some of the movies she's wanted to look that i will redbox the day before, send her off to bed when i'm done, make her relax and soak in the tub, with candles lit, and a glass of wine/a good book have a poem on her pillow for when she goes to bed, so that she sees it and reads it. arrive in when she is reading it and tell her i adore her, glad mothers day, nighty night, etc. good? what other things can i do, and what nice of gifts?
12 Apr 2010, 12:10 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: How to clean an uncircumcised penis?
I am currently babysitting my younger brother for the whole week because my parents are off on their anniversary. He is disabled so he has others give him showers. What is the proper way to clean his private area? I gave his first bath today and noticed he was uncircumsized. I did not know how to properly clean it. Do i use wipes, antibacterial soap, or anything else? Sounds like a pretty stupid question, but any help will be appreciated Thanks.
14 Aug 2010, 9:52 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: In the middle ages, how did they treat mentally ill people?
I'm just wondering. I was reading some book about autism, and I wonder how they handled it in the middle ages, and other eras before now. I read on wikipedia that the first asylum was build sometime in the 1200's. and that the mentally sick were treated with drugs, baths, music and activities if this is so, then why didn't the average working man in these times pretend to be mentally sick to receive special treatment instead of busting his hump working for a living. I would've done that. Well, if I wasn't obsessed with god, which I might've been considering in the middle ages, people had little self value and lived for god. Anyway, does anybody know how the mentally sick/disabled were treated in the past? Wikipedia is very helpful but I want some insight from anyone who's studied it. I always imagined they would say something like, "HES A WITCH!" or "HES GONE MAD! OFF WITH HIS HEAD!!!"
8 Apr 2010, 7:26 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: disabled friend fell in bath tub. apartments are chaging her to fix it. can they do that?
The apartments never provided her with railing in the tub. They are now charging her 350.00 to fix the damage. What rights does she have?
14 Apr 2010, 2:45 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: How to deal with girlfriends rude kids?
Alight, my girlfriend is black, and her son is half white, which is chilly, i actually happen to be mixed black and white as well, but he's really leading me to believe he might be becoming mentally unstable. Give me some feed back on what you think about some of these issues, first and foremost, without fogetting, he is a republican, because his grandfather ( Who wanted him aborted ) On the white side, ( no racial pun intended) is like his mentor. Which is chilly with me, but the man is a full blooded racist, and he is the only black , well half black person, that he' has ever been nice to. And i hate to say this , but i think he might be a racist, my girlfriends son that is. Here are some of the things he does and says on a daily basis. 1) Believe's Obama is worse a leader than Hitler, says he " hates " Obama. Constantly disrespecting the president. 2) Recently found out that he got into a verbal dispute on facebook, and saw where he called a black girl a "Ni66er" On her facebook page, and wished sick fate for her family. 3) Reads Books on hitler in his free time, owns several books about nazi's and hitler. 4) The guy has 0 friends, none. Not 1 time in a full year, has anyone arrive to the home to hang out with him, or even call him on the phone 5) Found out he masterbates to gay porn. My girlfriend walked in on him watching gay porn on the desktop computer. After she forbid him to use the computer anymore. We constantly catch him in the bathroom with her laptop with the door locked, claiming he is taking a bath. This is Daily, also, found out he has charged gay pay per view movies on the cable. Still he says he is not gay, and that he's just trying to learn how to masterbate or other lame excuses. She is in denile about him being gay, believing he is straight. 6- Last fall my tires on my BMW were mysteriously slashed and ruined, every four of em, even though the garage door was down, my girlfriend believed him when he said he didnt know anything about it, and we ended up almost splitting up because i was so mad at her for not taking action. 7- Obsessed with Fox news, and believes everything glenn beck, and sean hannity say. 8- Only Music he listens to is pop / Lady gaga, little girl stuff. Not interested in music that teenage guys typically hear to, and even though iam not that glad about it. He still Bashes gay people every day, when every the signs clearly show he is 9- Refuses to join any social activities. Go to football games or do school dances or anything, he's so anti social his teaches routeinly call the home out of concern. 10- Never helps my girlfriend or myself with anything. He has 0 chores, has never in 1 year taken the trash out, or even cleaned his possess room. 11- Disrespects his disabled brother daily. Wont help his handicap brother inside the home when they receive off the bus, Because my girlfriend and i work when they receive home from school, noone is there to help him but him. I've received numerous calls from neighbors on our road, saying he is outside in the icy sitting in a wheel seat. And to make matters worse, every time i talk to my girlfriend about him, she gets defensive and being yelling at me saying stuff like. " Just arrive out and say it, you hate him" and " I know you hate our family". When every the while if this was my blood son doing the same he probably would have been in a military school. I dont think i can stand this kid anymore, he's 15 btw. Do you guys think i should leave this relationship. He's really being to make my life hell with his BS.
9 May 2010, 12:18 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: Help impotent Answer a.s.a.p?
I wanna live on my possess but i am disabled cant walk cant give my self a bath sorry if that is to much info i would really like to move out even though my mom dose not want me to lol. Anyways I would like to know how i can do this when i can't like i need help with something like putting a Oxygen tank in my Oxygen holder on my wheelchair ect b/c its so heavy i can change it myself me and my pal did once b/c we were going to go to the park but no one was home i am too afraid to use the oven i am nervous about moving out i really want to then again i don't i would live with someone but i don't have that many Friends that really like me so ya. I know i am only 16 but i really want the Answer to look if i can live on my possess or not my sister moved out of the home at 17 but i don't know if i am going to do that even though my mom dose do baby me a lot i feel like a baby at my home b/c i need so much help with stuff how can i grow up with out moving out of the home i do not feel 16 at every. I do where a mask at night i do not know if my mom would like me moving in with a boy lol. i feel like a baby in my possess skin like i tell my mom every the time she treats me like a baby but she says its b/c she loves i just ignore her. Help!
7 Apr 2010, 11:53 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: IS IT Normal To Sit By an Open Window All Day Every Day?
There is this lady in her 40s who refuses to work, has a son, has a maid to clean her one bedroom one bath home, is not married, and sits and stares out the window every day, and then goes outside and sits in front of someone's walk way watching people pass by. She'll sit every day and watch tv, and her son gets mad because she has no job, does not want to take out the trash, and doesn't take him out to sports or pal's houses...... Does she have an illness? She refuses to work--she is NOT disabled in any way. Is over 190 pounds and expects her boyfriend to do everything to take out trash and she leaves her laundry out on the front bushes so her bf can take them to a laundromat. your thoughts?????
19 Aug 2010, 3:01 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: American Disabilities Act?
My dad is considered disabled. He recently stayed at a hotel and several things happened- 1. They had only one room out of 130 rooms that were able to accommodate him. 2. The bathroom only had one bar and the shower was a bath/tub combined and the result was him hurting his back. What are hotels required to provide and who should we call to report this issue? He stayed two weeks and had many many issues but this was the most concerning as he hurt himself.
26 Oct 2009, 4:53 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: CAN YOU HELP A DISABLED FAMILY BECOME 1ST TIME HOMEBUYERS?
Married couple (college students, disabled, kids & raising grandkids) in URGENT of buying a home ASAP and becoming 1st time home buyers. We dont have A+ credit but are more than willing, ready and able to consider every available home purchase options. Wichita KS area, preferably NE, for easy access to Wichita State University.. Have good income with well balanced debt/credit ratio but low credit score of less than 590. Prefer minimum 3 to 4 bedroom/ 2 bath. Garage. Basement ok.
28 Nov 2009, 1:28 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Should I believe my mother?
I'm 15 years old, and my parents are recently divorced. For the past year or so, my mom has been expending a lot of time into "exposing" my dad--telling me every sorts of dirty secrets about him. However, one of the most disturbing ones is her claim that he molested a female cousin of mine, and a close female playmate of mine around the time when I was 5. The problem I have with that claim is that the playmate in question never objected to coming to my home--and often staying overnight. In fact, she always came up until the point her family moved away when I was 7. Same goes for the female cousin in question--when my family and I went to visit her and her family, I don't recall any icy demeanor at every, nothing amiss. Furthermore, I remember my dad giving me baths when I was little, and I don't recall him doing anything inappropriate to me at every. And it really puzzles me why the police were not contacted in either of these alleged incidents. Now recently, my mom told me that when I was a toddler, my dad became annoyed with my crying and subsequently held me up to the ceiling and then deliberately dropped me. You look, the problem I have with that story is that I very clearly remember seeing a 60 Minutes program many years ago when I was I was about 7 years old, and the subject was about child abuse. During the program, they discussed an individual who had lifted a baby and deliberately dropped him to the floor, and that he was permanently disabled as a result. And I remember my mom bursting into tears when they showed pictures of him and the extent of the permanent damage. I am seriously hesitant about calling my possess mom a liar--but....! I don't know, could it just be a coincidence that my dad did the same thing? And could it be that my mom was just too scared to contact the police in the alleged cases of the sexual abuse? Is it possible for kids to be sexual abuse, but APPEAR normal as though nothing is happening? I guess the $1,000,000 question is: Should I believe my mom?
24 Nov 2009, 10:11 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: IS IT Normal To Sit By an Open Window All Day Every Day? T?
There is this lady in her 40s who refuses to work, has a son, has a maid to clean her one bedroom one bath home, is not married, and sits and stares out the window every day, and then goes outside and sits in front of someone's walk way watching people pass by. She'll sit every day and watch tv, and her son gets mad because she has no job, does not want to take out the trash, and doesn't take him out to sports or pal's houses...... Does she have an illness? She refuses to work--she is NOT disabled in any way. Is over 200 pounds and expects her boyfriend to do everything to take out trash and she leaves her laundry out on the front bushes so her bf can take them to a laundromat. your thoughts????? Bf just pays her money, and gets sex from her. WHAT nice OF ILLNESS IS IT??
19 Aug 2010, 3:03 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Should I study Accountancy at University of get a training job with an accountancy firm?
Hi, im just coming up to the end of my A levels, I am hoping for ABBB-AAAB in the way of grades. I have a place waiting for me at the university of Kent or UEA, and am awaiting a answer from university of Bath. However, I am not really sure that University is the best option for me, I would like to become a chartered accountant but also have a keen interest in perhaps running my Dads Disabled daycare centre when he retires. I can either receive a regular job, receive a placement on a training scheme with an accountancy firm, or head off to university. I am not to worried about costs of education at this stage as long as it pays off in the long run! =D Unfortunately I haven't a clue what to do!!! Pleeeeez help me!!! THanks alot, Chris =D
16 Dec 2009, 1:37 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Because of disabilities had my bathroom redone, the bath has been taken out and a shower fitted in its place?
The shower cubicle is a big one and a wash basin is plumbed into a corner this was done to allow more room in the bathroom. Water pools in the shower tray and takes a very long time to drain. My husband showers in the morning and I shower in the evening. When we go to the bathroom in the night and step onto the tray to receive to the basin for hand washing or for water we receive wet feet. The people who fitted it have been paid and say that they cannot lift the tray to put an angle on it because it would cost too much and they say the special non-slip flooring they installed cannot be lifted. They have given me a bath mat to stand on which gets sodden. He also suggested a squeegee, or a towel which causes a lot of washing. We are both disabled (husband has Parkinson's and other muscular problems) and 80+ and one of the reasons for installing the shower was to clip down work. Also we could no longer receive in the bath. The firm thinks I am being a nuisance and the constant battle to receive them to do something is really distressing me. Should I let it go? I really don't know where to go from here.
30 Nov 2009, 11:12 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Settle this dispute please...?
*I am physically disabled. I was paralyzed for two years, and I am in a lot of pain* OK, I met someone online, on a dating site. They offered to take me on a road trip to the coast of Oregon. I told them that I had no money except $10. They told me this was no problem because they had just got their taxes back. I was VERY adamant about telling them that I had no cash to contribute. They insisted on taking me. I told them flat out in no uncertain terms that I could not contribute. I am repeating this part because it is important. Their offer was this: I will arrive pick you up, take you to dinner, we will snooze, receive up, and then go to the coast of Oregon. I told her that I was down for a road trip but there was no way that I could go because I had no cash. She was very clear that she would pay for the trip. this was solidly established because I have no desire to take advantage of anyone. She came and got me and we got Thai food. Then we went to her home. We ended up having sex. I pushed myself physically while sleeping with her to the point of making myself physically sick. We had sex multiple times. In the morning I woke up ridiculously sick. I told her that I needed to take a bath or I would be sick for the whole day. She explained that she understood this because her dad was the same way. She lived in a trailer and the only form of hot bath was an inflatable hot tub that had to be prepared before use. I told her I was grotesquely sick and that I needed to receive into the hot water immediately. She was well aware that if I didn't receive in that I would be essentially crippled for the relax of the day. So, she proceeded to receive up and cook breakfast for the next hour and just let me lie there in pain. Asa result I ended up almost physically incapacitated for the relax of the day. We ate breakfast, and I asked her. "Are we going to go on the road trip?" She said, "We woke up too tardy." So, we never went, which was the only reason I went to start with. So, now I am stranded 50 miles from home, 3 miles from a store. I have no way to receive to this store. I needed a cigarette. I asked her to take me to the store so I could receive cigarettes. She didn't. I was stuck. However, her dad, who lived next door had just got several cartons in the mail. So, since I could not receive out to receive my possess, I asked for ONE cigarette. ONE, that's it. She treated me like I was the rudest human on Earth for asking this question. So, I sat there every day stuck at this persons home, repeatedly sleeping with her whenever she wanted, as much as I was physically capable of. I eventually could even have sex with anymore because I couldn't freaking move. The evening came. I was hungry. I told her I was hungry. She did not offer me any food, and would not take me to the store. Then, she looked at me and said, "do you want some garlic toast?" I said, "yes" I told her I was starving. She had cupboards full of food but had not offered me anything but some toast. I finally got up after feeling pushed around and grabbed the first food I could find: a bag of Doritos--which could have bought myself if she would have taken me to the store. I grabbed them and she said, "Aren't you going to ask?" I said, "So, I don't have to ask to cum on your face but I have to ask for some chips?" She said, "You can only have a couple." I felt like a prisoner. Then she came in with the garlic toast. However, she had made a full dinner for herself. She sat and ate Potato soup, drank a "boutique" soda, right in front of me. She sat and ate fucking dinner in front of me, and I hade 3 pieces of burnt garlic toast. Then, I was finally fed up and asked her to take me home. I gave to her physically almost beyond my capacity, she was pushy and controlling--she handed me a sleeve of movies to pick one and then after I looked through them she said "we are watching this," She refused to allow me to go to the store so I could buy my possess food and cigarettes with my last $10, she ate fucking dinner inf front of me, screwed me on the road trip, and then had the nerve to treat me like I was a mooch. I did everything I possibly could to take care of myself in this situation and she as well aware when she came and got me that I only had $10 to my name. I just went home and never called her again. End if story. Nope. Now several days later she is accusing me of taking advantage of her, and criticizing me for not giving her my last $10, and saying that it was rude to just take 15 Doritos and ONE cigarette. I don't want your opinion of my lifestyle but I want someone to read this and tell me how I took advantage of this person. I did EVERYTHING in my power to establish my financial situation and pay for my possess requests beyond her offer. She completely refused to allow me to take care of myself and who I finally did stick up for myself I was greedy. Somebody please stick up for me... I realize now what my mistakes were. I'm trying to fix the situation by making better choices. The whole thing was just hurtful and unhappy, and I feel very cheap and stupid for allowing myself to receive in this situation.
1 Mar 2010, 5:42 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: what would you do in this situation if this was you?
ok I have been married for a year and a half, my wife that is 23, has had a pill addiction for about a yr of it that I know about, she went to a counselor/ group meetings for it on her possess free will, she stopped the prescription medicine she was taking so much of, but like most addicts (including myself) she started drinking to make up for not taking the pills anymore. long story short, she was kicked out of "rehab" (for the lack of a better way to put it) cause she was showing up smelling like vodka and they wanted her to start AA meetings and she refused saying she don't have a drinking problem. so now she is up to a bottle a day more or less and popping any pills she can receive her hands on; Tylenol PM advil, our 18Month old sons prescriptions, ETC... I have tried to sit down with her and discuss my concerns, but every that happens is she gets instantly mad and screams she don't do this stuff and she don't have a problem and now she try's to hide every of this. This isn't just me seeing the problems cause she has been caught trying to steal one of the neighbors meds (take a few out of her bottle when she isn't looking type of thing, but the owner of them didn't trust my wife cause she could look through her lies and stuff, and had counted them) I have found empty vodka bottles below the seat of my car and in the trash cans. I don't drink and we are the only two that could put them in the trash..... I really do adore her and don't want to look her kill herself or allow this addiction to break us up, but at the same time I can't have our young son around this either. I am permanently disabled so I barely have an income to support myself not counting a child too, but I am the only one that takes care of him and his daily activity's (diaper changes, baths, meals, Dr visits, ETC...) and her paycheck is going to buying over the counter drugs and alcohol and who know what else, cause the bills are not getting paid now cause of this. I need advice and would be very grateful for any constructive help that I can receive.... a desperate husband and toddler
30 Nov 2009, 4:14 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: i have a handicapped daughter and am looking for some way to give her a bath. she cannot sit by herself.?
she is totally disable and trying to way to give her a bath in a safe way we wont hurt or drop her. any suggestions will be appreciated.
3 Dec 2009, 8:41 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I need some advice on this situation from adults?
ok, Me, my husband and daughter moved in Jan of this year to help my parents financially. My dad had just found out he was terminally sick and they needed help. ( I would do anything for my dad, he did the same for me and my husband through our time together) We moved an hour away from both of our jobs, with both of us working we could manage living this far out with ease. I become pregnant in Feb and I lost my job. So we were living on my hubby's income, BUT My dad still paid the lot rent, car insurance, cable and they're needs out of his disability check. during the 6 months he was sick, My sister had her third offensive of stealing and was sent to prison, My real brother (my dad's only son) came to look him 3 times the whole six months (the only reason he came here for my dad's bday was because he thought we were having a cook out, when he found out other wise, they were gone within an hour) Did NOTHING to help at every. My older brother did arrive and mow grass, build a ramp (to accompany my dad) and did things around the home, that my husband couldn't receive to. (working 60 hours a week, plus the hour there and the hour back) Now that my dad has passed away, (trying to keep the promise to my dad) We are "taking care" of my mom. We explained to her, because he is the only one working, we cannot buy her gas for her car or Cigarettes. We pay every the bills which tripled then what we were use to, we aren't complaining a bit. But the same WEEK my dad passed away my mom let her brother and 4 kids and wife move in on us for 'the weekend' it turned into a month, The DAY they left, my sister got out of prison and my mom allowed her, her 2 year old, her husband and new born to move in with us. (in a 3 br double wide) For two and half months we had two other families live with us, 2 months later our power bill is still over $700, our water tripled in those two months, we've let our cable/phones and soon to be internet go to try and catch up from when EVERYONE was living with us, and receive ready for a new baby. (I'm not complaing a bit because those aren't needs they are wants, but my mom is complaing because we can't afford for her to lay around and watch tv every day. She was just recently turned down for disablity in which I'm glad because she isn't disabled (and its not right) and she doesn't want to receive a job and has no money coming in at every, except a one time $255, widdowers check from my dads ssi or disablity) No one offered to give us any money to help, we didn't say much because it was still my moms home, When my sis arrive up the last time wanting to move in, We had to put our foot down, we couldn't afford it. Since then, it has arrive out that me and my husband should sacrifice what very little money we do spend (it's on the baby) and buy things for here, one thing was a weed eater, lawn mower, and other things. They talk about my husband like he is a dog, (since I've stood up to my sister she doesn't arrive around), now my (REAL) brother is telling us that we were stupid to rent a building to keep our stuff and my parents stuff in. (26 years of my parents gathering things and our home stuff dishes exc would NOT fit in this trailer) They talk about us not being able to pay our bills, (my brother makes 19$ an hour his wife makes 12$ an hour, my hubby only makes 10$ an hour) we've had to file bankrupt to be able to live this far out and take care of my mom. My mom isn't better then them, When my brother does arrive around she tells him ta bunch of crap, like we was going to give away her dog (that was mentioned to make her start taking care of it, because the dog pee's and poop's every over the home (90% of the rooms are carpet and she does not take care of it, no baths (she's had 2 baths in the 10 months we've been here), letting it up on the furniture, has skin issues she doesn't address) She trys to make them feel guilty that the money she does gets (selling my dad's personal valuables) has to go toward bills, she pretty much makes us out to be the bad people to my brother and that gives him the 'right' to open his mouth and make comments, saying that this was 'mama's' home it should be open to her kids if they wanted to arrive stay, we have no say so on what goes on. and like I said before we should sacrifice what little money that goes to our kids and buy stuff for her..Today another comment was made and my husband just snapped, he said he was sleepy of taking care of people and only getting crapped on and talked about, that my mom had a month to figure out what she was going to do about fiances, he is wanting to move back to where we were living. I agree with him, Are we wrong for this? I've been home full time not being able to take my daughter to the park 4 miles up the road because we can't afford the gas, can't give her a birthday party, My mom was stealing his cigarettes until this past month when he quit to keep money. She got upset when we sold my dog pen and my dad's bass boat to help pay on the power tha that was about to be clip off..she was use to my dad working and taking care of her for 26 years, and giving her everything she wanted..now we can't do that and she is upset..Me personally I think she is very selfish
24 Oct 2009, 11:06 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: my facebook has been disabled?
I put a picture of my 6 m onth old daughter on facebook when she was in the bath. but you cant look any of her boobs, or her private parts or anything, it was actually really cute and completely innocent. facebook said that my account has been disabled because i violated the terms of use. is there any way that i can receive my facebook back?
5 Aug 2010, 5:38 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: is it cheaper and better to buy a foreclosed house then to rent an apartment.?
I'm coming into some money maybe with my bf, not illegally, he won a case getting child support money from when he was 12-18 so ya. but in our area, apartments run about 500-800 for a two bedroom one bath about 500 sq feet houses foreclosed in the same area with lake accuses, are running from 10,000 to 24,000 I know either way we will have to pay utilities, and such, we have pal to help us fix, and will not need a loan at every, or anything we can pay cash for it, would it be smarter to receive the home? they are every ranches with 3 bedrooms, and 2 baths, with about 1,200 -2,300 sq feet. I have taken some money and finance classes. this will also be the first time we receive a place, so I know we receive some kinda discount, and for buying a foreclosure. but ya what is smarter. also my bf is disabled and going to receive surgery to receive his knees replaced so he is not disabled and I am getting a job soon while going to college, that is office work that pays about 10-15 an hour.
12 Oct 2009, 8:42 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: my son broke his leg at school and ended up in hospital for 2 days/nights ,?
he was playing football as an after school club,when he collided with another boy.my son was crying and the teacher got him to go and sit on the side.the club finished and one of the boys ran around to receive mum ,who then had a brief description what happened the she carried him too the car.we eventually took him too the R,U,H in bath.we have had to pay for his judo school and his outside football team.im disabled and my wife is a carer .the school help my son with lessons and said sorry ,but can we do any more ie compensation ,my sons confidence has been completely shattered please help.....
22 Jun 2010, 3:07 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Where can you get a portable bath unit!?
I am trying to receive a portable bath unit for adults (not baby bath) to be used in a bathroom (designed for disabled) which only has a shower. Thanks
11 Sep 2009, 6:20 am | click here to view more